How to Forget an Ex-lover:
Many of us have been in the uncomfortable situation where a relationship has ended, but the thoughts of the 'ex' are still flashing across our minds continuously. We are tormented by the questions, “What if...?” and “Why?” We cannot move on with our lives and find a more productive and satisfying relationship because the old relationship is holding our thoughts hostage.
Here is a very simple, yet effective exercise to eliminate the 'ex' from our minds. Of course, you must have first eliminated all contact with the 'ex'...no photos, no texts, no emails, no phone calls, etc.
Secondly, set aside some time so that you can be completely alone and undisturbed. This exercise may take a few hours, or it may take a few days to complete. Now, take a notebook and write a letter to your 'ex'. Write down everything you ever wanted to say. Ask every question in your mind. Write down every thought that enters your mind. Writing all of this is absolutely critical for success. All of these thoughts have been zooming around your brain with no way to get out. Writing provides a path for the thoughts to escape. When you have absolutely nothing left to write, then burn the letter. You will find that you mind is now free and your thoughts are clear. You are ready for a new and more successful relationship.
I will tell you how I discovered this technique. Many years ago I met a wonderful woman at a dance. It felt like two soulmates had found each other. We felt like a perfect match and we were soon married. We went on a honeymoon for a week and returned, as I thought, happy and very much in love. When I returned home after work the day after our honeymoon, I found a note on the kitchen table from my wife that said, “Take all of your belongings and get out of my apartment”. She would not talk to me, give me a reason or any explanation. She called an attorney and had the marriage anNoneed. I spent the next two months trying to talk with her and resolve this problem...but nothing worked. Needless to say, I was almost paralyzed with questions and thoughts that overcame my thinking and made me almost useless at work.
Then, the next weekend I went fishing. I spent the entire day Saturday floating on the lake and, in my mind, writing the letter I described above. Then, on Sunday, I wrote everything down and got it all out of my system. By Monday morning, she was only a faint memory, and I never thought of her again.
Three weeks later, I met a beautiful woman that eventually became my wife and best friend.